We all love that one spectacular annual event when we are bestowed with gifts and applauded for aging. It has been my favourite too until this year.
Why? Well because I reached that threshold of being officially ‘old’. 30.
All through my teens I couldn’t wait to be an adult. And as my ‘adulting’ was all rushed through, when I actually earned my resources to have a little fun I was suddenly too old!
20s are the golden decade of our lifetime. You are young, blessed with good skin, no responsibilities, you can afford to ‘figure out life’, date, strike off things on your bucket list, have crazy adventures etc etc. Plus you are always safely termed ‘young’. As I was at the bottom of an endless pit called medical education, it took a long time to finally emerge out of it and enjoy my days under the sun.
What turning 30 meant to me? Expectations…
- Being responsible
- Married with 1.5 kids
- No more hangovers
- No more shopping at Forever 21
- Being referred to as ‘aunty’
- Having to start using anti-aging skin care
It might sound quite cynical, but I thought my fun days would be over the moment I turned 30. I guess, I affirmed to the unwritten social rule that a woman turning 30 will need to settle down (get married).
As my biological clock was ticking, 29.1 yrs, 29.2, 29.3 and so on, I observed several moments of silence for my poor aging soul. Was it really that depressing? What was I afraid of? Was it just me or the social pressure?
And then I had an epiphany, I had finally F**d-up this year! Fearless, financially independent, free and fat (doesn’t matter haha). The year I spent dreading getting old was actually the most fantastic year of my life!
My 30-years reality:
- Still studying, but something I love doing… halfway through my goals.
- At my dream job, dreamt at 25 and achieved by 30.
- Lost my travel-ginity!
- Finally have the budget for some savings.
- Unmarried but c’mon I am still young!
Lessons I learnt:
- 20s taught me what to do, 30-year old me knows what not to.
- Some rules are meant to be broken. Society norms.
- Learnt to love, let go and then love some more.
- Can hold down my wines longer.
- Transitioned from religion to spirituality.
- Golden rule: brush your teeth twice a day.
- 20s were meant to cultivate juicy secrets, 30s are meant to reminisce them.
- Start a skin care and exercise regime. Just do it.
- Have that one crazy decade-old friend.
- Start saving up for that one crazy idea you have always had.
I was fortunate and blessed to spend my landmark birthday with my loved ones in Florence, Italy.
Well I always get excited when asked for an ID at a bar or someone saying ‘you are too young to be my doctor’. But I am absolutely loving the start of this decade of my life. To all those dreading their next birthday, thirties are not that terrifying after all. Life is tumultuous, but when you fall, you are much stronger to pick yourself up and move on.
Cheers to another year of being bolder, wiser and stronger. It is true they say, life begins at 30……