Hey guys, so apart from fashion, lifestyle and all the fun things I wanted to do a few posts on the ‘iceberg problems’. The problems we fail to see but are present and many of us face them on day to day basis.
My first topic is Body shaming.
Body shaming, defined as practice of making critical, potentially humiliating comments about a person’s body size or weight.
I must’ve probably been exposed to this at the age of 6-7. Well it started out in a cute way, calling me a chubby child, but it did leave an impact on me. Imagine a 6 year old trying to fit in a new school, with people constantly talking about her weight.
It progressed all through middle grades well into my teenage life. Knowing or unknowingly I received comments on how I was on the fatter side of the scale. How I needed larger size of clothes. It got me thinking I was ‘not normal’.
So once I was walking on the beach and I distinctly remember, two boys walked upto me, pointed their phones at me and with an evil laugh said, “she doesn’t fit on my phone screen”. Another one said, “round like a football.”
It escalated even more through college, people commenting and making me feel as if the world revolved around my body size.
I felt under confident, dejected at times, blamed God for making me ugly.
There are so many other instances. But I was subjected to body shaming, it did leave an impact on me.
I am sure so many of you out there have gone through similar ordeal. Be it fat, skinny, short, too tall etc etc
We should all be asking our selves, when we comment on others, whether be it in a good sense, is it out of our own insecurities?
Does another person’s appearance bother us so much?
I know being on a higher body mass index has lot of health issues. But does that justify calling the kids chubby or fatty?
We never would know what another person might be going through. We are indirectly affecting their mental and psychological state.
We all come in different shapes and sizes. It all depends on genetics, physiology and other factors.
My thoughts on this:
1. Lets each one of us assume some responsibility when we participate in the practice of body shaming. We have in some way contributed to another person’s depression or sadness.
2. It starts in childhood. We can all work over this and take a small step in preventing this practice. Many of us are involved with small children as parents, teachers or family.
3. ‘Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder’. Lets learn to look past the exterior and peek inside the beautiful soul of another individual.
4. Lets try to approach the health problems related to obesity in a positive way.
5. Lets learn to tackle our own insecurities, before we unknowingly target someone else.
6. Lets teach our children to shun the practice of body shaming.
These are my personal thoughts which I wanted to share.
Hoping to learn more from you……
You are more than the way you look!
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